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\u2018I\u2019m the only person who does anything in this house!\u2019 I groaned, frustration welling up as I looked at the sink full of dishes and the dirty benches.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d just arrived home from the gym and the kitchen was just as messy as when I\u2019d left. After I\u2019d made dinner, I\u2019d expected my husband Tom to at least clean up.<\/p>\n
\u2018I know, I\u2019m sorry,\u2019 Tom said mildly, stepping up behind me to start filling the sink.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n
As we met eyes, my anger evaporated and we both burst out laughing.<\/p>\n
Because Tom did loads in the house. Easily as much as me. I knew it and he knew it.<\/p>\n
And I also knew that he hadn\u2019t just been watching TV or scrolling through his phone while I\u2019d been out. He\u2019d got our two children, Theo, five, and Immy, three, bathed and into bed \u2013 no mean feat.\u00a0<\/p>\n
But still, even when I was being completely unreasonable, tired and irritable after a long day at work, Tom would never disagree with me.<\/p>\n
I never thought that Tom and I would have anything in common with football legend Peter Crouch and his wife, the beautiful model Abbey Clancy. But when they admitted in their new book, The Therapy Crouch, that Abbey is always right in their relationship, I realised we were more similar than I\u2019d imagined.<\/p>\n
Because I was always right in our marriage too. It\u2019s been a running joke between me and Tom for the whole time we\u2019ve known each other.<\/p>\n
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You see, Abbey and Peter are right \u2013 it does<\/em> make a happy marriage.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n Before you think that I am an awful, awful person who has brow-beaten her husband into a quivering wreck who is too frightened to voice an opinion, let me explain.<\/p>\n They say opposites attract and that is definitely the case with me and Tom. He is lovely and laid back. Nothing ever phases him, he never gets jealous and he definitely never argues.<\/p>\n On the other hand, I am far more fiery and have stronger opinions. I feel passionately about most things \u2013 big and little. I\u2019m quick to shout (although, in my defence, I\u2019m quick to apologise too).\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n When I first met Tom, nearly 10 years ago, he was also the complete opposite to my last boyfriend \u2013 and that suited me down to the ground.<\/p>\n Because in that relationship, me and my ex clashed over everything. Both convinced we were right, we argued non-stop. It was emotionally and physically draining.<\/p>\n So when Tom and I got together, it was far more relaxed \u2013 groovy, he would say. Because while I took the driving seat in our relationship, Tom was always happy to come along for the ride.<\/p>\n I could spend all day daydreaming about getting in my PJs and scoffing down duck pancakes or looking forward to getting dolled up in heels and a new dress and visiting the newest bar round the corner from work.<\/p>\n Tom, well, he just wasn\u2019t as bothered. He\u2019d fit in with anything. \u2018Yeah, you\u2019re right, that sounds great,\u2019 he\u2019d say to any of my suggestions.<\/p>\n He is also far more hesitant than me, never one to rush into plans, preferring to think things through. Then think them through again. While I was always two steps ahead, pulling him along with me.<\/p>\n It didn\u2019t make either of us wrong or him any less of an equal partner in our relationship. It was just the way we were \u2013 and it worked. It was what made us click.<\/p>\n So it was me who suggested where we went for dinner, what we did on dates, where we went on holiday. Tom just smiled and nodded. And when we moved in together, it was me who arranged for us to view houses.<\/p>\n \u2018Let\u2019s go for this one,\u2019 I exclaimed when we came out of a tiny two-up two-down. \u2018It\u2019s so cute, isn\u2019t it?\u2019<\/p>\n \u2018Are you sure you don\u2019t want to see any others?\u2019 Tom asked hesitantly. But I was full-steam ahead.<\/p>\n \u2018It\u2019s only rented,\u2019 I insisted. After another look around the garden, he nodded. \u2018OK, we\u2019ll go for it.\u2019<\/p>\n Turning to the estate agent, I beamed. \u2018We\u2019ll put down the deposit now.\u2019\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n Cut to a month later, I was looking around the living room, shaking my head. \u2018It\u2019s tiny,\u2019 I gasped. \u2018There\u2019s nowhere to put\u2026 anything.\u2019<\/p>\n \u2018It\u2019s fine,\u2019 Tom said, wrapping his arms around me. \u2018You were right, it is cute. And it\u2019s only for a few months until we buy somewhere.\u2019<\/p>\n And that is exactly why I love Tom. Even when I am wrong \u2013 and persuade him to be wrong along with me \u2013 he never gloats or makes me feel bad. We\u2019re always in it together.<\/p>\n And, by allowing me to make these mistakes, it allowed me to learn from them. So when we did come to buy our first flat, I made sure we viewed far more properties before we finally put an offer in on one.<\/p>\n When we moved in together, Tom quickly adapted to my way of doing things. \u2018That\u2019s totally the wrong way to wrap presents,\u2019 I exclaimed, seeing him put Sellotape on lengthways, rather than across.<\/p>\n Or \u2018Don\u2019t leave the sponge in the dirty sink water.\u2019 Or \u2018Don\u2019t put the wok on top of the frying pan in the drawer, it\u2019s bigger, so it just doesn\u2019t look right.\u2019\u00a0<\/p>\n \u2018I was thinking about putting this picture up here,\u2019 Tom mentioned one day. \u2018Really?\u2019 I frowned. \u2018I think it would look better on the other wall.\u2019 You can guess where it went\u2026<\/p>\n Because he was always too laid back to care about these things, Tom was happy to fit into my little quirks and ways. And because I was always right, I was always happy too.<\/p>\n It was win-win. We literally never argued.<\/p>\n Whenever I\u2019m angry or cross, Tom is the perfect person to moan to. \u2018Do you think I was in the wrong?\u2019 I\u2019ll ask, after I\u2019d bickered with my mam. \u2018Of course not,\u2019 he\u2019ll reply immediately.<\/p>\n But after maybe half an hour, he\u2019ll casually mention how upset my mam might be feeling and maybe it\u2019s worth giving her a call to sort things out. By then, I\u2019ll have calmed down enough to pick up the phone.<\/p>\n Platform is the home of Metro.co.uk’s first-person and opinion pieces, devoted to giving a platform to underheard and underrepresented voices in the media. <\/strong><\/p>\n Find some of our best reads of the week below:<\/p>\n Sex columnist Almara Abgarian offers these handy tips to people who have no idea how to please a woman.<\/p>\n This is how to save thousands of pounds by making one small lifestyle change, according to Zara Canfield.<\/p>\n What do you do if your mum thinks she’s invited to your hen do, but you don’t actually want her there? Columnist Alison Rios McCrone has the answer.<\/p>\n Rape survivor Ellie Wilson recalls what it was like for jury members not to believe her \u2013 even though she’d recorded a confession on tape.<\/p>\n But knowing he\u2019ll always have my back and be 100% supportive \u2013 and don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m the same with him too \u2013 is what makes our relationship so special.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n Ever since we\u2019ve had Theo and Immy, I am even more in the right. Tom just doesn\u2019t have the energy to argue anymore!<\/p>\n \u2018I\u2019m not sure those leggings go with that T-shirt,\u2019 I\u2019ll frown when Tom dresses Immy in multi-coloured stripy bottoms with a spotty top. \u2018OK,\u2019 he\u2019ll say, returning to the wardrobe.<\/p>\n And the number of times, we\u2019ll agree that they have absolutely enough toys, then I\u2019ll come home from the shops with another bag. \u2018You\u2019re right, Theo really does need another Black Panther figure,\u2019 Tom will laugh.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n Over the summer, after spending weeks looking after Theo and Immy, I was itching to get away somewhere \u2013 anyway \u2013 for a night or two.<\/p>\n \u2018It\u2019ll be expensive to go away at the last minute,\u2019 Tom began, but seeing my face \u2013 and the countless tabs open on my laptop \u2013 he gave a sigh and sat down next to me. Within half an hour, we\u2019d booked a spa hotel and train tickets.<\/p>\n By that afternoon, we\u2019d been shopping, taken the children to a medieval castle and, after having a swim, were eating room service in our hotel bed, watching Casino Royale. Theo and Immy were sleeping peacefully in the adjoining room.<\/p>\n \u2018It\u2019s been a great day,\u2019 Tom sighed happily. \u2018You were right to suggest we come away.\u2019<\/p>\n And, scooping up another mouthful of sticky toffee pudding, I nodded contentedly. You see? I am always right.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/i>More from Platform<\/h2>\n