My girlfriend confessed to snogging her boss – where do we go from here?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend has confessed to snogging her boss at their work Christmas party.

We’ve been together for eight months after meeting at the gym. She’s the receptionist there. She’s 25 and I’m 28.


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Her boss is married and owns the gym. The staff all went out for dinner, dancing and karaoke in a hotel.

She shared a taxi home with her boss and that is when the kiss happened.

She seemed very strange after her party and I thought she had a hangover, but her mood didn’t change over Christmas, keeping me at arm’s length.

She finally cracked and explained what happened.

She’s scared of losing me and says it was a stupid mistake.

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She says she’ll never go out without me again and she’ll see a relationship counsellor with me.

I don’t know where we go from here. I feel paranoid when she leaves for work.

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DEIDRE SAYS: The trouble with confessions like this is that it relieves her of the guilt but it dumps all the pain on you.

I do hear from couples where one of them has done far worse – but it often shows them that their own relationship is the most important thing and they have made a big mistake.

She is punishing herself enough. It was a kiss – not nice to hear about but nobody died.

If she cheats again, you may have to rethink. But while things are good, try to put this blip behind you and move on.

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