Mother's Day gifts 2023: Mothers share their dos and don'ts
The Mother’s Day gifts… that no mum ever asked for! Women share the worst presents they’ve received – from a lint roller to a toilet plunger
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Mother’s Day is approaching fast and many may wonder what to get the mother figure in their life to mark the special day.
This year, Mother’s Day in the UK falls on Sunday 19 March, although it is celebrated later in the year in the US.
And with a few days to go, anyone who hasn’t sorted out a present yet might be feeling a tinge of panic – but it’s important not to let that override common sense.
Mothers have taken to social media to discuss the gifts that they really wish they’d never received – from a lint roller to a toilet plunger.
If you’re struggling for something to buy, there’s a good chance that a gesture such as taking care of the kids so she can have a lie in or a thoughtful message in a card will go down a lot better than a bunch of drooping flowers.
Here, Femail reveals all the do’s and don’ts of navigation Mother’s Day gifts.
This year, Mother’s Day in the UK falls on Sunday 19 March, but it’s important not to panic if you’ve not found a gift yet (stock image)
It’s the little things that count
It seems that all some mothers want is just a little bit of appreciation for all their hard work.
A heavily-pregnant mother took to Mumsnet to speak about the poor effort that her husband put in for Mother’s Day last year.
The anonymous poster said that although she received a gift, which was a watering can, her husband put ‘zero effort’ into the day and didn’t even make her a brew.
She wrote: ‘Mother to toddler and currently 10 days overdue with second baby. Husband has basically made zero effort for this awful thing called Mother’s Day, despite me asking him to book something nice like a lunch or ANYTHING for us to do that isn’t exhausting at this stage of pregnancy.
‘My gifts were a watering can, which has been sat in the car boot for a month and I’ve seen it every time I open it, even though I already own one, and an empty picture frame. No flowers, no breakfast, no cup of tea, no taking toddler so I can have a lie in.
It seems that all some mothers want is just a little bit of appreciation for all their hard work
‘I’ve had quite a difficult end of pregnancy and have been quite unwell, now very uncomfortable and overdue. His reasoning for not booking or doing anything was “in case baby comes”, but I wasn’t aware this stopped him from at least bringing me a cup of tea or saying “Happy Mother’s Day”.’
Others took to the comments to reassure her that she was not being unreasonable, with one asking: ‘Was he this selfish last year as well? How is he with birthdays, Christmas, Valentines etc?’
Another wrote: ‘You are not pathetic. He is! He’s being lazy and thoughtless.’
A third penned: ‘I would be re-gifting that watering can on Father’s Day.’
Worst gifts they’ve ever received
On a Reddit thread, mothers were asked about the worst gifts they had received.
One mum revealed that her husband got his mother a toilet plunger for Mother’s Day, before – unsurprisingly – adding that she is now in charge of buying all the gifts for that side of the family.
Meanwhile, one was understandably disappointed to be presented with a lint roller on the day.
Another user wrote: ‘Worst Mother’s Day gift was a jar full of bugs and a dead mouse. Still pretended to like it and we gave it a proper burial.’
Mothers were asked on a Reddit thread about the worst gifts they had received and some answers were shocking
But another mother, presumably with a newborn, said she was going through a challenging period and hadn’t showered in four days and was peed on by her child, only for her partner to gift her a toilet roll holder for Mother’s Day.
She wrote on Mumsnet: ‘So after being up every hour with my son last night including being peed on at 3am and just had my first shower in four days, darling husband presents me with my Mother’s Day gift.
‘A toilet roll holder. I want to cry. He said I didn’t tell him what I wanted, but I did repeatedly, and even if I hadn’t, a toilet roll holder? Meh. Anyone else care to join me in solidarity?’
One mother took to Mumsnet to express her disappointment in a gift she received from her significant other
And they certainly did, with one mum commenting: ‘I think that’s pretty unforgivable to be honest. Has he apologised? Has he explained why he thought that was anything other than very disrespectful?’
Another said: ‘Wow, has he not heard of flowers?’
A third wrote: ‘Get him a toilet brush for Father’s Day, complete the set.’
A fourth penned: ‘That’s so rude, it’s incomprehensible to me how mean that is. You don’t become a mother for the gratitude, but you shouldn’t have such a lack of care, consideration, love and respect.’
Other mothers took to the comments to express how shocked they were about the situation
Personal gifts mean more over-commercialised tat
Some mothers believe that Mother’s Day is over-commercialised and would prefer personal gifts, often of no-monetary value.
In a post named ‘Anyone else hate mother’s day???’ a mother wrote on Mumsnet: ‘I feel like it’s all a bit off stuff everywhere in the shops, most of it tat.
‘It doesn’t feel the same when have to constantly remind your teenage children about it. One gave me stuff later on today, other forgot but made me tea and says he appreciates me.
‘Just feel all this pressure to photograph beautiful flowers and gifts and have it all over FB (Facebook).
One mother took to Mumsnet to express her frustration over how commercialised the day had become
‘I hate these made up days, made up by card companies to make money, anyone else????
‘Oh and must be awful for women who can’t have children or have lost mothers or just don’t have a relationship with theirs.’
One agreed, saying: ‘I like it but we don’t do the commercial stuff at all – just went for a country walk together, which was lovely.
‘On the other hand, people posting braggy photos on Facebook is always awful, whether for Mothering Sunday or any other occasion.’
Others took to the comments to share their opinions – some loved being spoiled with gifts, but others agreed with the poster
Another said: ‘I think quite often it’s about expectations and I pretty much just expect a hug and card.’
Another mother disagreed though, and said: ‘I love it now I’m a mother. A lovely card with some thoughtful words, breakfast made and then a lunch out and champagne with family.’
No generic gifts
One mother expressed on Mumsnet how she doesn’t want to receive any of the generic gifts that stores think mothers want for the special day.
She wrote: ‘Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not expecting a gift at all other than perhaps something they’ve made at school (which I’m sure will be lovely but I won’t feel any less loved if it doesn’t show up).
One mother took to Mumsnet to speak about how she doesn’t want any of the gifts that stores think she wants
Others on the post agreed with her, and said it was a commercialised day, while another said these gifts are ‘last minute’
‘But I can’t be the only mum in the UK that doesn’t want any of the following that the stores are promoting: Prosecco or gin, fluffy slippers and night wear, bath sets or perfume, scented candles, flowers.’
The mother said she’d much prefer ‘a decent sleeping bag or something for the garden’.
On the thread, other mothers agreed, with one saying: ‘I can think of nothing worse. Something simple that he’s made at nursery or my husband has helped him make would be lovely, but all that stuff in the shops you’ve listed is a bit “last minute gift” I think.’
A second mother said: ‘Nope, I don’t want any of that s**** either. I also don’t want the kids to feel they have to buy anything for a made up, commercialised day.’
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