I'm worried my ex will upset our son when he reveals he has a half-sister

DEAR DEIDRE: I WORRY about my ex telling our son about a daughter he had during a previous relationship.

I was with him for four years but we separated three months ago.

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He is a bully and was emotionally abusive. I had no choice but to leave.

I’m 31 and my ex is 35.

I’ve allowed him to have regular contact with our two-year-old boy during this time but my worry is that at some point in the future he will tell our son about this half-sister, who is eight.

I worry it will confuse our child if he finds out about the girl.

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Worse still, I have a feeling this daughter is not even biologically my ex’s kid.

How can I let him know I am not ready to complicate our life like this?

DEIDRE SAYS: I understand your reluctance, especially if you are uncertain that she is his daughter.

But try to work out why you feel so uncomfortable about it. Secrets in families can be very damaging.

It is much better for your son to hear the truth from his dad when the time is right, and he can understand.

This little girl is his half-sister, after all.

Contact familylives.org.uk (0808 800 2222) for support.

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